If you want to look for a major gripe, i'd point out that the British invaded Afghanistan in 1838, 1878 and 1919 and in the end they failed and the Empire collapsed. The USSR invaded Afghanistan in 1979, finally started to withdraw troops in 1988, and then the USSR collapsed... so then in 2001 the US decided that invading and occupying Afghanistan was a good idea... (is it far to compare invading Afghanistan with 'starting a land war in Asia' - or the winter invasions of Russia which beat Napoleon, Napoleon and Hitler...
'Regardless sitting on our hands is not the answer.' - sure, and the US has a history of setting up 'American' schools, something to actually educate (in the same way Muslims setup madrasas - according to wikipedia 'Today, 20,000 Madrassas educate over 1.5 million students per year.' - Contrasted with about 14 AIS schools (see: http://www.aissfoundation.org/ )
You can, infact sit around not invading people, or work with local powers, so getting involved in African wars with the support of the African Union (which sends in peace-keeping troops on occasion) getting involved in Syria if the Arab league was willing to provide 50% of the troops - i'd say Asian conflicts would require Chinese support, and European ones the EU allies, but always building support of regional powers when possible.
In that sense, at least the war in Afghanistan did have support from numerous international powers.