I'm going to reference an ongoing game. Please don't read too much into it or ask me questions about that game, it's just a useful comparison. What I say I feel is objective to an observer.
Like every game where I'm not Turkey, my first and only goal was to make sure to eliminate Turkey. I've played too many games as an Italy or Austria where Turkey doesn't get eliminated and thusly around 5 years later completely destroys everything, read: me, in it's path. That was the number one goal.
Austria was on-board and a-Lepanto-ing we go. 1901 is off to a great start and then out of nowhere Austria gets three build. Three builds for Austria? He managed to sneak into Warsaw somehow. In the mean time we have a full fledged anti-England Sea Lion going on so I don't have to worry about France quite yet. Little to no friendliness between R and T mean we clean up pretty well along the Balkans/Turkey.
Spring 1903: I get SMY with AUS suport. I also move TUN-NAF for the lulz. I shouldn't have done that because now I can't follow it up with an additional convoy. Lesson to all y'all out there: sometimes holding is boring but don't just do random moves for the lulz.
Autumn 1903: I'm a bit nervous based on Austrian press. I'm just getting my 5th center and he's getting his 6th and 7th. I thought I asked for support to CON, but I don't feel like it's coming. Turkey comes to me and asks for support BUL-GRE. I call an audible and take ANK instead of moving CON and give the support. I've successfully done this before where you just stab both sides and use the stab to the loser as an excuse to the winner. For what it's worth ssorenn, I honestly thought you were gonna give me support to CON so when it didn't happen I felt completely justified. Someday webDip will have a message archive that doesn't make me hate life and I'll see what was specifically said.
Now I get two builds and I do some damage control with Austria. My builds make it fairly obvious I'm still with him and France is still trying to finish England. In this game the Sea Lion doesn't go balls to the wall on England in order to also take a bit out of Russia, so that's still going on. This means I'm fairly comfortable and can finish CON, get some good relations with Germany and Austria going, and move west. I somewhat successfully move west, but Austria gets both MOS and RUM, and while I'm assured ANK next turn, he gets two builds to put him at 9 and I'm still at 6, all of which are way far from my home centers.
A bit of a shit storm ensues.
I ask, and then tell, Austria not to build because if we're allies we should stay relatively close in unit number and that they'd basically only be used against me.
He then tells me that he has to protect his home centers, and how dare I not let him do that.
And I'm like...what?! Building next to my completely empty home centers "defensively" seems incredibly hypocritical and a blatant lie.
There's some more reasons I don't find any credence with and a lot of yelling. I mute him. AUS makes a final declaration that no one gets to tell him what and whether to build and he is going to build a fleet and it's final.
It's funny and worrying at the same time but whatever it's just a game. I rush back while convincing Russia and Turkey that after stabbing/attacking them over and over it's all in the past and we have to stop the Austrian solo threat.
After a phase or two I unmute him and start talking to him again. I don't remember exactly how, but especially with France getting big we patch things with a lot of press.
I give him a list of demands:
I get VEN and ANK
He stays in GRE/TRI with his fleets.
He pulls any funny business and I throw the game to France (very easy for me to make sure France gets Tunis as an 18th, very hard for Austria right now to get past the stalemate line or stop me from holding TUN till France gets there)
He agrees.
I stab Turkey one last time (<3) and take VEN back. France is getting super big and now it's just a question of whether we bother to cut out Germany. Because of various reasons tensions are very high between everyone, and the stress of playing Peace Maker between the two solo threats and, if I may, forceful personalities, that is France and Austria, I'm ok with letting it be a 4-way draw. Austria relents.
I'd like to say I played "sitting on the stalemate line as Italy" perfectly, but that's nothing to be proud of.