how is it not obvious that either the one on the left has to be heads or the one on the right does, and that 50% the one on the left is heads the one on the right will be heads (if we go down the left route), and that 50% the one on the right is heads so will be the one on the left (if we go down the right route)? your problem, as i've said, is giving to much importance to order (which is irrelevant in the OP), for an independent conditional probability question. we know one is heads so we can say H, now we need to see the other one as T/H. this is just like the case i said where we showed you a head.
how about this semck, this is my simulation for you to run, throw two coins without looking. we agree each coin has a fifty fifty chance of being heads yes? now i remove a coin - either the left or the right, you don't know. what are the chances of the remaining coin being heads? 50-50 right? this is the same, i've removed a child at random (older or younger) because i know it's a boy, but this doesn't miraculously change the probability of the remaining child....