It's hard to offer advice without knowing specifics, or at least gaining some context. What I would ask is, how long have there been problems? How old are you? Are there other family members that can mediate? Has your relationship been good or bad in general? What triggered this statement from her? Was it something acute, or has it been building for some time? Does your mother (or you, for that matter) tend to act emotionally and then later think things through? Have there been other statements like this from her in the past, and if so, how were you able to move beyond it? Do you think this may be a statement designed to send a message or get a response from you rather than something truly meant? Do you have other housing options, even for a few days, to allow some space and time to calm and consider before talking it out?

I could go on, but knowing some of this would go a long way towards being able to offer some suggestions. Sorry to hear of your troubles, these things are never fun.

write a letter telling her you will always be there and that it is hard for you to verbalize but you do love her very much. You are sorry for whatever you did to be a lousy son and you hope that you can talk about how you can approve. An if thee are things you want your mom to change add that also nicely. I mean I figure you just want to tell how you feel. If you are coming to strangers for advice onto how to patch things up it means you are likely a good son no matter what your defects. Best of luck.

I would say move to an apartment 30-60 minutes away and the time and distance will heal the relationship. Living under the same roof magnifies the issues.

Grow move out, spend time with her when you want to, build up a relationship from there.

*sorry, Grow up and move out.

@Brian, Just thinking about your questions, and responding to them in my head, helped me calm down a bit and figure things out. @orathaic, Mapu, the "grow up, move out" suggestion truly does sound like the best course of action. It's going to be a strain financially- roommates will be necessary- but I think in the end it's what both my mother and I need. @Santa, I pretty much implemented your advice. It helped. Thank you. And thank you to all you guys. You were helpful without exacerbating my embarrassment.

There is no reason to be embarrassed, droog. There's nothing wrong with needing help. The greater problem is when people refuse to reach out to others (even if they are strangers) when they are at the end of their rope as you seem to have been.

+1 lakerfan. Though I would have put it differently - knowing where to seek help to solve problems is a strength - like knowing that you can extract geographic knowledge from locals when navigating, you know, by asking...

I also think moving out might be best. Try to do it on the best of terms you can, no yelling or anger involved. Make sure that you honor your parents and let them know how much you have appreciated the sacrifices they have made to provide for you. Then do not cut off contact. You should try and keep checking in and keep in touch, if possible coming back for a family dinner maybe once a month or bimonthy if you would be invited. If not maybe you could request to take your mom out for lunch once a month to keep in touch with how your family is doing. Or calling to see if you could help her out with something around the house one weekend.

I don't think any parent truly never wants to speak to their child again. I'm sure the strain in yalls relationship is breaking her heart. A parent is typically trying to do the best they can for their kid and an attitude of gratefulness can go a long way to remind them that you love and appreciate them. Without specifics that is the best advice i can think of off the top of my head.

Wait a minute? Are you Jewish, and are you Wallowitz? (Kidding...thought a humorous moment was needed here...) Might I suggest you make *her* a brisket tonight? :)

Without knowing details, is the problem with your behavior, her behavior (does she drink?), etc. So many things can cause problems. Separation helps, as others have said. My brother and father were at each other's throats for years - the problem is (as we saw it) is that they wee clones - too much alike. And they constantly butted heads in stubborn disagreements. When he moved out, the relationship slowly healed. It will never be perfect…part of it has to do with respect for one another, etc.

If you are old enough to move out and able, maybe Mom is just tired of raising a kid…I’m assuming your father is not in the picture for some reason, which can only make things more difficult on mom, which is why you need to separate physically, but not emotionally…

You are on web dip, so I am assuming you are also above average in intelligence…so you might also very well have some irritating personality traits. You might want to candidly ask some friends if this is true – how have you pissed your mom off?

Just throwing thoughts out here.

Bottom line – seek a *professional* counselor. Might do you worlds of good!

By the way - as a struggling alcoholic, if her problem is alcohol, know that she may say things at times that she does not truly mean...and may truly regret them. If this is the case, she needs to know you love and support her...PM me if this is the case, buddy. I can talk to you on a very personal level about this, and the (damned near) miracle I have recently gone through in my struggle.

Alcoholism is, thankfully, not a part of the equation. Thank you all the same, Krellin (and, again, everybody), for your sympathy and advice. I really cannot adequately express how moved I am by the words of all y'alls. I mean, I am near tears.