I'm having trouble even conceptualizing what it is you want to do. Long walks on the beach, worrying about political minutia, all of this sounds like relationship concerns. If you're talking about finding and dating someone:
(1) Most of this is irrelevant anyway; you're going to screen unintentionally as it is, so you'll almost assuredly date someone with whom you can have this conversation and come up with an agreeable stance as a couple. If you're talking about a committed relationship, this isn't something you need to discuss with us. In those, you'll end up sitting down at some point and talking about this situation and what you would do, and you'll be fine. What we (or at least I) have been talking about are casual hookups, where sitting down to a lengthy philosophical discussion about the ethics of sexual behavior and its aftermath are rare, and attempts to start them often fail, miserably, to the future detriment of the attemptee in subsequent nights out.
(2) If you're talking about going out and trying to get a girlfriend in college, you need money. Not negotiable. Also not in the cheesy "women only like dudes with like 10 big stacks man" bullshit, but more in the "women are not shut-ins" practical reality. Women want to go out. Going out costs money. If you're not working, that's very quickly going to be a significant budget concern. Please don't keep arguing this point, because you're going to end up making yourself think that you can get by without money, which ends up with you planning around being able to get by without money, which ends up with you being *forced* to get by without money, which ends up with you not going out hardly at all, or going to places so cheap that it reflects badly on you as a dating prospect.
To try to explain better why money matters - there's one thing that influences your ability to have experiences of any kind with anyone: it's how interesting you are as a person. We don't have a lot of time on this orb. Wasting it on someone who's boring?
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Now, there are a lot of ways to make yourself an interesting person. Spending time with people and having different experiences with them makes you interesting. (Potentially. With respect to interior designers, 30-minute discussions on the economics of wallpaper purchase will never be interesting.) Now, you don't have to be a completely dependent sheeple that does what everyone else does so you can spend time with them and become interesting. In fact, as the term "dependent sheeple" rather clearly implies, running with the herd just to do it is a surefire way not to be interesting. But at the same time, *some* of what you do is going to be what other people do. You don't have to go to Reggie's, per se, but you can reasonably anticipate needing to go out somewhere sometimes to have things to discuss. Just take my word for this; I tried the whole "but hurr I'm so good at philosophy politics history stuff that's interesting I can last" angle and... nope. You won't last five conversations before people stop texting you or whatever. You can't be one-dimensional (counting all 'intellectual' subjects as one-dimensional) and succeed in this arena. (Clarification: Reggie's is probably the trashiest, and inexplicably one of the most popular, hangout spots in BR. It's so bad that running a Google Image search for "Reggie's Baton Rouge" will net you a censored image of someone receiving a handjob within the first five pictures. The point is, you don't have to go to some trashy shit dive to be interesting. You can go out with some degree of class.)
So you're gonna have to go places, do things, meet people, all that good stuff that everyone says and you've thought about a million times. Well, again - you don't have to spend a LOT of money, and your geographic area is going to matter. I didn't know you were from the Californian beaches, for instance; that's a lot better than me, for whom the nearest nice beach is a half-day's drive and a state line or two away. If you're in a big city like New York or Los Angeles, you'll probably have public transportation that can get you to all kinds of cool places without spending as much money as, say, here. (Hell, even Baton Rouge, for all its dilapidated infrastructure, has sufficiently serviceable public transportation for students to get to reasonably interesting areas.) Again, you don't have to buy the farm. But you'll need some kind of steady income stream to go out and meet people. The whole "take a women out on five dates for basically nothing" plan that some guys like to float around is (a) 90% bullshit, (b) extremely likely to get you a reputation as a cheap sleazeball if it fails and (c) only likely to succeed if you already have extensive dating experience and know how to make things work. It's okay to be vanilla when you're starting out; in fact it's advisable, until you figure out what works and what doesn't, whereupon by all means you should get creative. But please, for the love of all that's good, don't trick yourself into thinking you can get by on dating without working. It will not work, and if you don't recognize when it doesn't work that that's why it didn't work, you will screw yourself over even further in ever getting it to work later.
@scagga: well yeah, but let's get to making the chase possible before we start sweating the thrill of it...
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