@yebellz -- "Suppose I called you a worthless idiot and slew of other verbal insults. Why should you be offended? Even the words of my insults are just language and would have no meaning if they had not been learned.
In fact, even knowing what the words mean, you are more than free to call me whatever you wish on these forums, and I will not take insult in reality, because...
1. I have no idea who you are
2. You have no idea who I am
3. I don't really care what you have to say - or most anyone on these threads, in general - insofar as none of you have any real impact on my life, my family, my relationships, etc
4. Even if the insults are intended, it is simple to consider the source and simply ignore them, deeming the source of the insults to not have the power to insult me.
For example, YJ makes a pointless habit of trying to insult me. I play along, I mock him in return, etc....but seriously, it's more for the sport of the verbal back and forth than anything else.
In other words, *NOBODY* can insult you if you choose to not be insulted. You can only be insulted if you give someone the power to insult you.
So...take the case of an African American seeing someone in blackface.
I can think of three options to ract:
1. Take it as an insult, be offended, and let it ruin your day with anger
2. Accept that the person in black face may be ignorant of the fact that it is insulting, realize their mistake, and let it pass. Eventually, if enough people let the "grievance" pass without comment, and without insult, the action/word/etc loses all power to be insulting
3. Accept that the person intended it to be insulting, but understand that the person is not worthy of your consideration, does not have any power over you, and pity them, instead of being insulted by them. Ignore them...and in time, the action/word/etc loses power to insult..
Insults are a two-way street - it requires someone to provoke, and it requires someone *wiling* to be provoked.
Unfortunately, our schools teach children that they *should* be insulted, they empower bullies....whereas in the "old days" children were taught "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me". And that's why when someone called you a name, the normal response was "I'm rubber, your glue, whatever you say to me bounces off me and sticks to you" -- in other words, we had a national culture that *DE-emphasized* the power of words, and granted children the power to ignore insults...and thus, insults had far less power than they do today.