"A) can addict with only one use, or
B) can kill you with only one use?"
Addiction and physical harm are obviously very important factors, and are the ones that I use when I judge which substances are safe. However, the way you've phrased these questions is misleading. The very nature of addiction is such that you cannot get "addicted" on the first try. Substance dependence is usually defined when your brains reward circuits are wired in such a dysfunctional fashion such that you constantly and cyclically seek out the substance. It may also involve developing tolerance and withdrawal symptoms when deprived of the substance. The idea of getting "addicted" on the first try is a misleading statement propagated by the media.
It is difficult to measure which substances are the "most" addictive, as addiction has many facets. However, surveys of addicts of multiple drugs usually rate nicotine as the most addictive drug, over heroin and crack cocaine. The addictiveness of "hard" drugs is often overstated, again by the media. Government surveys have shown that roughly 8% of regular cocaine users become addicted, compared to 15% of regular drinkers, and 55% of regular cigarette smokers. By most rating scales, nicotine ranks higher than heroin, cocaine, and methamphetamines (the media's new hype drug), and in some scales, even caffeine ranks higher than these substances with roughly 30% of regular users become dependent.
http://www.nytimes.com/1994/08/02/science/is-nicotine-addictive-it-depends-on-whose-criteria-you-use.html?pagewanted=1
http://www.michaelshouse.com/drug-addiction/most-addictive-drugs-world.html
In terms of "can kill you in one use", this is also a misleading question. Any organic substance in sufficient dosage can cause death. Take enough of any drug and you can die. The important thing to consider is the therapeutic ratio, which is the ratio between the effective dose required to achieve desired effects (usually the high) and the lethal dose. These are usually both presented as percents, as the effective dose is considered the dosage in which 50% achieve effects and the lethal dose is the dosage in which 50% die. According to this study which compiles measurements of safety ratios, where the lower, the more dangerous the substances, the following selected substances have ratings of:
Heroin - 6
Isobutyl Nitrate (Poppers) - 8
Alcohol - 10
Cocaine - 15
MDMA (ecstasy) - 16
Prozac - 100
Psilocybin (Magic Mushrooms) - 1000 (?) extrapolated
LSD (Acid) - 1000 (?) extrapolated
Marijuana - >1000 (?) extrapolated
You can see full results here:
http://web.cgu.edu/faculty/gabler/toxicity%20Addiction%20offprint.pdf