If she's smart enough to not drink coffee or soda and all those crap drinks, she's probably pretty good.

Beverage snobbery is weird.

But not as weird as these threads where webdippers act as though women are an alien species and that someone just had a first encounter.

If you drink coffee, she's probably too good for you.

Are you guys playing at Classic Rock?

Don't deny you have beverage snobbery too Putin.

Hey Zybodia, thats a strange question who are you talking too?

I just know that they play board games and drink coffee there on Tuesday nights.

Well cool. Yea come on up and say hello some time. Im not actually a troll IRL.

"Don't deny you have beverage snobbery too Putin."

I will judge you for many things, but the overpriced swill you drink is not one of them.

given the fact that coffee is natural and makes you happy and elated. Its well worth a price

Is this a joke?

Are you calling my water "overpriced swill"? Come at me bro.

@Nevertheless I think coffee is a good drink. Why would that be a joke?

Does coffee really have an effect on you? I have drunk it on several occasions and noticed absolutely nothing. It is nothing other than a strong tasting drink, much like a less tasty Bovril

Some say tea tastes like astringent tree water, but who am I to judge?

"Come at me bro."

Put down your Voss and let's have at it.

Do ask her for coffee or something chill to start. I liked your plan, frankly of slowness. And yeah, 30 is usually past the crazy phase. I have had a lot of friends have a pretty rough time in their 20s (women, that is. I mean men too, but in particular). Maybe find out other stuff she likes.

My one tip is to do something soon that's a little exciting like rock climbing or something. it brings out good things. (My friends actually tried to set me up with my now wife twice. The first time she was totally uninterested, and not sold on round 2, but a few weeks later I worked up the nerve to ask her out to dinner, which her friends talked into doing on something of a lark. So, hang in there. )

@ Ogion - did you discuss the date before and afterwards on an online forum?

Sorry - on an online forum dedicated to a board game - not eharmony to be clear

I have no tips. I met my wife at an airport where I found her reading "Trotskyism or Leninism" and began asking questions. Our first "date" involved discussing Zimbabwean land reform over beer at a bar that served underage people. I invited her over to my apartment where we watched the Norman Finkelstein-Alan Dershowitz debate. I don't know how the bourgeoisie finds love but I'm sure it's through some exchange of goods and services.

Only now. Just giving a School of War buddy a pep talk. It sure beats the horrible political discussions and other nonsense we get here.

As you might guess; I'm rather socially awkward.

For what it's worth, bb, I wouldn't try to cover up your social awkwardness. I mean, don't turn it up to 11 or anything. But it's who you are. Own that shit. You can acknowledge that it's something you work on/struggle with and at the same time let it be an endearing quality. Besides, believe me when I say that she already knows that you're socially awkward. If she doesn't, that means she's adorable or her own social issues match yours. And if she's still friendly, then asking her to coffee is a great way to start exploring the depth of that friendliness. She'll either turn you down, or she won't. But then you'll know.

But do NOT do the whole friendzone thing! You've interacted with her in a group setting, she knows who you are, and she's friendly. There you go, dude. That's enough groundwork to ask her on a date right there. Pursuing the friendzone nonsense is going to make you a friend. And if that goes on too long, one day she'll excitedly come tell you about this new guy that just asked her out! Isn't that great? NO! Instead, YOU go be that new guy. Carpe Diem, man!

What exactly is a friendzone, by the way? Is it the tradition in the US now not to be friends with the people you sleep with?

@ Putin

I know there's not exactly much competition, but that's quite possibly the most romantic story ever posted on this site.

If she ever plays webdip as France, pay close attention to how carefully she guards Brest. That'll give you an indication of how best to cross the bases.

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@Octavious:
It can get impossible to show eachother that you like eachother 'in that way' if you're close, have lots of lunches together, share everything and joke about the whole romance stuff a lot, including how hot you both are blablabla.

If everything is within limits of your friendship, how do you convey you want to get further?

Then I thrive to be friends first and lovers second for other reasons, so there's certainly a paradox there.

Friends is fine, but there is a point where it's nigh impossible to distinguish love.