@Frank - It sounds like those two games were fine then.
The clarification to the rule that Lando, with his profanity laced insults (something I haven't done to him despite his attempts to prod me into it), doesn't seem to get is intent. Now, I knoe common sense eludes the typical 16 or 17 year old, so I don't expect him to quite grasp that rule. After all, these are the same kids who think they are invincible and do donuts around the roundabouts in my neighborhood and wonder why the cops are waiting for them when they leave to give them tickets and impound their cars for driving 55 in an elementary school zone.
But intent is all important in the analysis. If you enter the game intending to ally with someone, no matter what the natural relationship of the two nations is, then you are metagaming. If you enter every game with an open mind and *then* use your knowledge of the trustworthiness of the player to make the decision when faced with two possible allies, then you are fine.
It's subtle, I know, and I guess I have to forgive Lando for his ignorance in recognizing the subtle nature, but it is how the mods will make their determination when they question you in an email.