Many of the differences you list are more apparent than actual. You're letting rhetoric get in the way: just because people said Bush would be small government or Obama would be transparent doesn't mean that they actually were or are. Romney isn't going to cut Medicare, that would be politically foolish. He'll probably expand it, the way Bush did.
If Obama is so much better for gay Americans, why did he drag his feet for two years on ending DADT, including having his Justice Administration fight for it in court? I suppose Obama's evolving views on gay marriage are mildly preferable to Romney's, but I have yet to see any evidence that we would see a meaningful change between the two. In other words: When it has come to actual policy, Obama has fought against changes much more than he has fought for them.
Admittedly Mittens is difficult to pin down on health care, but last I heard he wanted to keep much of Obamacare, including protection of pre-existing conditions. He created a very similar program, after all. Why people are so happy with an enormous subsidy to health insurance companies is another question, I guess.
Some of that's just wrong, too. Obama's alleged anti-lobbyist cred is a fake, as this WaPo story points out: http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/white-house-visitor-logs-show-lobbying-going-strong/2012/05/20/gIQA2ok4dU_story.html This is perhaps, to me, the most annoying thing that Obama supporters talk about, besides his fake immigration reform and fake medical marijuana reform.
In the other parts of this list you are twisting the truth. It's true that Romney wants to cut FEMA, but Obama's 2013 budgets wants to cut FEMA too. Not sure how one measures who is the best single president when it comes to disaster relief, but whatever.
I will give you this: Obama and Romney do differ sharply over abortion, contraceptives, etc. But this is probably the place where their differences matter the least. The president can't do a lot about this.
Even this brief discussion has been exhausting, so that's enough enough for now. Here's my real question: you're a socialist of some flavor, right, Putin? I don't understand why you're so gung ho for one particularly wing of the American government-industrialist complex. These guys are a nickel apart on most of the issues that the president has any say in and a quarter apart on rhetorical issues that the president can't practically do much about. These are two candidates bought and paid for by Wall Street, and their minor differences on social policy won't show up in their presidential behavior. Shouldn't you be "a pox on both their houses"ing throughout this entire election?