Fuck Ghosters.

How long were you ghosted for?

The first time for 6 months then she says ohh I went crazy. this time about 4 months and says shes insane.

So her RR is not that good. would you say less than 50%? what is the RR required for entry into your game?

Is the underlying problem solved or are you just going to assume it doesn't happen a third time?

Im not going down this road again lol. Her RR no longer allows her to buy into my lifegame. Shes banned for being a multi personality.

I think you should build in NO South Coast, this turn before making a fall 1903 play for Absolutely Not.

bb I thought you were ghosting us soon? Soon right?

The real question is: Is she metagaming?

Ah, I must've misinterpreted your OP.

Your turn to do the ghosting!

I do enjoy these good news stories where people have lucky escapes from a lifetime tied down to a lunatic :). How on earth did you end up engaged to a girl like that in the first place?

More importantly, did you get the ring back?

I've actually never heard the term ghosting, so had to look it up.

I'm not sure I understand the problem. People deal with issues like relationship breakdown differently. It may be that one partner has difficulty expressing their emotions, or feels they can be manipulated if they continue any contact, or they feel their heart will rule their head if contact continues. Regardless of their reasons, they are entitled to talk to whomever they like and to shun others. Just because they were one your partner doesn't give you any sort of entitlement over them.

I can of course understand how being ghosted hurts the person being ghosted, but should the ghouted person's needs come before the ghouting person's needs? I think not.

Gotta agree with Maniac, actually. I for one love being told exactly where it went wrong, but it never crossed my mind to get angry at a girl for not telling me. It's quite a hard question after all.

It can be good to take a step back, wait a year or two, make clear you don't want to start over and ask where it went wrong, if you want closure. There's just this point in a relation where you doubt eachother's motives with every word and then talking doesn't do much.

If someone who is engaged to someone else suddenly breaks it off without any explanation they are a complete shit of a human being, plain and simple. Much like deciding to have a luxury picnic in front of a homeless man, there is nothing illegal about it but that doesn't mean you aren't scum if you do it.

Yes, a bit too plain and simple to my liking. Especially 'suddenly' is a bit odd IMO. If such a thing is truly sudden to you, that might be part of the problem.

Not to say you shouldn't ask, but it seems likely, someone prone to ghosting will not be open and honest about reasons. "I went crazy," is a strategy to put your attention on her; it could be she is diverting your attention away from her secret alliance with Russia.

Shes from Scotland so its likely an Edinburgh convoy scenario

Sure but you would know something is up though, right?

You don't have to know what, but the chance that you think everything is perfect..

@octavious, they may very well be scum, but they may also have reasons. No disrespect to brainbomb, whom I happen to like, but people wanted to mute him in a game which is all about talking... (Love you brainbomb).

I can easily understand someone wanting to run a mile from the prospect of marriage to brainbomb, don't get me wrong. But ghosting a fiancee is a vile act of cowardice regardless of whether or not you've seen the light and realised what an abysmal life partner brainbomb would make.

Not that I have any strong feelings towards brainbomb one way or the other. He may well be lovely if you get to know him. Or not.

They had a dispute about whats better: WTA bill paying or PPSC bill paying. Brainbomb believed in PPSC and she believed in WTA.

personally I think introducing unranked bill paying and SoS bill paying would have likely saved the engagement.

I mean being a relationship with the explicit goal to be the best place for "classic" bill paying; I think that PPSC bill paying just didn't have a place ... no offense brainbomb. Maybe if she is offering you SoS or unranked it might be worth considering, or you could just send her to vDip.

Is this a Conservative Man post?

Im more of an unranked kinda guy now.

Not the sort of chap a girl would want to carve a notch in her bedpost for, eh? Well good on you for being able to admit it. Generally guys boast of high ranks or don't speak of it at all. Your honesty is a breath of fresh air.

Nah not my style. Im not looking to add more points to my account. My wins do not exceed my resignations lol ;)