"Do you have any friends that are guys?"
Yep. I have guy friends, girl friends, gay friends, lesbian friends...
If they're someone *I* can somehow tolerate for a long period of time and, just as rare, they can somehow manage to tolerate *me* for such a period, I don't care...it's not as if I have hundreds of friends to pick and choose from (sometimes it seems like that many people know me or recognize me from a debate or discussion or display somewhere, but being recognized for being a notorious Shakespearean, atheist, and analytical asshole is hardly the same as keeping friends, wouldn't you agree?) ;)
The majority of my friends are straight women for sure, but that's just because I get along better with them, it seems...the ones I meet and keep as friends are generally very well educated and cultured while still retaining a sense of humor and commonality; in short, better chance in my experience a straight woman will want to spend hours on end talking about Shakespeare and operas as well as football than straight men.
"Do the girls you hang out with know you are a virgin?"
They ALL know I'm a virgin and date-less, and have been (and probably will be) for life...
I fling around Hamlet, Holmes, and Higgins in regular conversation to argue my points as I do here...I don't NEED the Internet to quote them, after all, I know them better than I really have any right to...they know I'm a virgin who's never had a date or been in love, and I get the same damn answer from them as everywhere else--"Oh, someday you'll meet someone..." and...yeah, not a chance--anyone as amazingly intelligent and cultured and sharp and witty as *I* would ever want to date can almost certainly find more logical, overall better mates, and even if they did have interest, I can't imagine ever accepting...I have no stable job to pay for them chivalrously, no home of my own to invite them over to, no car to pick them up in, and I doubt someone as overly-analytic and often-cold as myself would do well in a sentimental game of romance...and that's even without my being a virgin. I likely couldn't marry and support such a person in a manner befitting them, even if I could such a talented woman shouldn't HAVE to tie herself down and be supported by someone less accomplished than herself just because he happens to have a Y chromosome, and even if all that weren't the case there'd still be the singular fact that relationships are notoriously unstable and fragile, and I'd be a terrible lover for reasons everyone here can see and guess from the Internet alone--as a friend I can talk to them, and that's enough, as a boyfriend or more, something gone wrong on account of my inability to love ably enough, and that's that.
"Have any of them offered to devirginize you but still remain friends, just to give you the experience?"
Well, as the vast majority of them have boyfriends or husbands, and at least one has a child already...that would be no. ;) (Even if someone offered, again, I wouldn't want to take advantage of an actual friend like that, especially someone that intelligent and elegant...it'd seem to cheapen them, or degrade them, I wouldn't want that...even if I WERE all that keen on sex, I wouldn't want that for them.)
"Have you ever been attracted to any of them but are too afraid to president it because of the losing the friendship ?"
Never had that problem--
Not because it'd never cross my mind, but rather because I'm generally able to find out VERY quickly if they're involved (a quick glance at the left ring finger and, upon being friends on Facebook, a quick glance at their relationship status, and that's if I DON'T uncover it in just talking to them, I'm pretty good at sizing them up in that regard quickly, again, whatever I lack in personal warmth of tenderness I instead compensate for with a mind that analyzes and over-analyzes every little detail...which is part of why I love literature, I can analyze something as little as a comma to death) and they just about always are.
I know my best friend once had feelings for me, for whatever reason, and as per my logic above, I didn't for a second start down that path...
And she's since had a few boyfriends and break-ups (and actually a whole ordeal involving one boyfriend where she and I had a tremendous fight and didn't speak for months, I had to essentially sift through my emails--I never delete them, for just such a reason--as well as the online writings of both herself and her boyfriend to solve THAT "case;" if I hadn't figured it out or been so doggedly obsessive and analytical about it we likely wouldn't have ever spoken again) and she and I are still friends...friends with about 1500 miles separating us, but I'll take that over a short-lived affair with her.
With any such friends, really. She no longer has such feelings, and it's for the best, I'd rather be her friend than her ex any day.
If any other such friends voiced such feelings...
First I'd be utterly dumbfounded they'd even consider that, and then I'd probably do what I did with my best friend...after all, if I wasn't going to make that illogical decision with HER, would I really do so with anyone else?
It's for the best they have boyfriends and husbands--such people DO have the resources and emotional capacity to actually devote time and cars and diamond rings to them...and I'll be content talking to them.
I would imagine most if not all of them will someday no longer speak to me (after all, logically, there's really only so much emotional capital someone has, and so a wife with kids and immediate friends at work as well as parents and in-laws likely won't or doesn't have the left over emotional capital to discuss things with an old friend preserved through Facebook or meetings or whatever else) and then when I'm friendless I'll move on.
There'll always be women looking to talk, even if just for a moment, and it's not as if I have a ton of friends now and would be crushed by having few...
If Holmes, Hamlet and Higgins can get by with Watson, Horatio and Pickering, I can certainly manage with one or more friends and just as little in the way if dates as they.
Because, of course, real life is just like fiction, yes? ;)
And as a final coda--
I meant it when I said I feel saddened to see brilliant women tie themselves down to meat heads or those less intelligent, cultured, accomplished and talented than themselves--
Why would I make an exception for *myself* in that regard? ;)
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