Relationships take work. Maybe neither of you are prepared fr a relationship due to course loads etc. maybe one or both of you are on a break up and not ready for a relationship but still want to have sex with someone you feel safe with.

@smc: Are people really not ready for a relationship after breaking up? I can't imagine ever not wanting a relationship, but then again, I've never had one.

Remember that Olympians are not normal people. They follow obsessively focused, rigorous routines ever day for years to maximize their potential. This means that they frequently have less social opportunities than regular people. They probably primarily interact with people in their sport -- teammates, coaches, competitors. It would not surprise me if most in-training Olympians are not in committed relationships, because they probably don't have time for them. Like Lochte's mom says, he only has time for one-night stands. Throw them in a Village with a lot of physically fit, similarly focused people and it's not surprising what ensues.

Yes, really.

CM, check out the Daily Bible Reading thread, the last few days, because these chapters in I Corinthians deal specifically with sex. And soon we'll get to Chapter 13, about love. Hope this helps.

From Chapter 6:
Avoiding Sexual Sin

12 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead.

15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”[d] 17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Footnotes:
d.1 Corinthians 6:16 Gen 2:24.

Taking another persons morality is like stealing their clothes, you never feel as comfortable as you should because you know they're not really yours.
As for having someone tell you your being sinful, that is way out of line.
If you believe in God I tell you what he's got planned for you, the Rapture where he exterminates 99% of all living people including you so worrying what he thinks about casual sex is like worrying whether the guy at the cinema is going to shoot you through the head or through the heart, same result.
The reason why sex is good is because it is emotional, what would we be without emotion. You don't have to worry about whether you should or shouldn't, learn to trust what you think inside about things, once you can trust your own judgements on other subjects you can trust yourself on this also, I think the simple advice is 'if in doubt, leave it out'. You don't have to have sex to have fun with a woman but I know this to be true, a woman sucking you off and then swallowing your cum feels really nice. It's also nice bringing a woman to orgasm any which way. I'm not saying that is everyones cup of tea but don't reject it until you've given it a go.
You can have bad sexual experiences but in my opinion most people are quite glass half-full and don't let a few negatives spoil all of the positives that can be had from social and/or sexual intercourse.
I don't need a book to tell you how I feel about a subject, I'm talking about reality. You find me a man that got sucked off by a woman and found it unpleasant.......

@Mujus: The terms 'sexual immorality' and 'sexual sin' are very ambiguous. For example, rape is definitely a sexual sin and sexually immoral, and that could be what Paul was talking about. However, I do in fact think Paul was talking about something, probably in conjunction with rape. I've read in numerous places that in those times the people of Corinth (i.e. the people Paul was talking to) had a practice of going to temples dedicated to pagan fertility, and having sex with prostitutes there in order to worship fertility gods. Which of course is idolatry. So that would literally be sexual immorality: using sex to do something immoral. That is what I believe Paul was talking about at this part of Corinthians. Why? Well, it just makes a whole lot more sense. I can't think of any logical reason why premarital sex would be sinful. Jesus said that the commandments boiled down to "Love God with all your heart, soul, and mind", and "Love your neighbor as yourself". I don't see how pre-marital sex violates either one of those.

@Mujus: Now, I don't think discussing this will get us anywhere, as I don't think either of us has any real interest in changing our minds. I would, however, love to hear about I Corinthians 13, although I am already somewhat familiar with the chapter.

@CM

You think too much, mate. If there is one thing that people who go for a lot of casual sex have in common it's that they don't spend countless hours debating the morality of casual sex. The only way you're going to do it is if you work yourself up before hand and I would give good odds that you regret it the next day (assuming it even happens, of course).

You're just not the type, mate. Go to college, enjoy yourself, see what happens, and see what life throws your way and you won't go far wrong. Talk yourself into a lifestyle that's not for you and you probably will.

Octavious, that's wise advice. CM, check out the rest of the chapter for some specifics, and Chapter 13 will be coming up in a couple of days--or you can find it yourself at blueletterbible.org--I recommend the New Living Translation for an easy read.

Also, rest assured that while many people have no problems with casual sex, only a subset of them actually engage in it, even smaller subset engage in it regularly and the way Olympians copulate is extreme – most people don't have the means, mindset and even motivation to let steam off this way. I would compare Olympians to reality show contestants, only under much more pressure, with need to actual do stuff rather than screw around, inability to take any drugs and not much cameras around. With the way human body works, sex is the quickest and best relief for them.

Do you intend to get married someday? What do you think your eventual wife would prefer? What kind of sexual history would you prefer she have?

Even with condoms, there can be issues of disease and pregnancy, as condoms aren't 100% effective.

Guys why are you making such a fuss about sex, it sounds like a few people have some psychological hang-ups about the most natural thing. You're going to scare the poor lad.
How can you hope to get good at something if you don't practice, and who wants to marry someone who is rubbish in bed, I'm reading some strange stuff here ....... or maybe where you guys are from this is normal thinking.

I don't think consulting an ancient book that advocates rape, murder, and slavery is the best resource to use to determine action in the modern world.

I do think that you shouldn't worry so much. Either things will happen, or they won't. Overthinking it is a surefire way to make sure they won't.

Relax, take things as they come, and enjoy yourself if they do.

You need a libido suppressant.

@Nigee, I think people are "making a fuss" about sex because sex, like all actions, has consequences - often very major consequences, possibly even lethal consequences if you think of AIDS. Or instead of dying, you could create a life, and then whatever you do about that will have major repercussions for the rest of your life. Or as Dipplayer pointed out, you could (will) have relational repercussions for years to come, whatever those consequences may be. At any rate, it's kind of obvious that sex is a big deal to humans, so why not give it the attention it deserves?

As to people having "psychological hangups" or being "rubbish in bed" when they get married I can only give my personal experience which is that if you are a virgin and you marry a virgin then you're both rubbish in bed, but neither of you knows it, so it's not an issue. You learn together, knowing that you'll never get a disease, never fearing pregnancy, knowing that your partner is never thinking about someone better they had long ago before your hair started greying and your six-pack abs started turning into more of a keg. You know the person you make love to is always going to be there in the morning even if you have a giant fart after sex. And the more you practice together the better and better you get, and the more and more you want to do it, which is fine because they're always there. And I could go on and on about the joys of wedded love-making, but maybe I've shared too much already. But I wanted to demonstrate that I'm not anti-sex or some such insanity.

If you want a long-term outcome you usually have to make long-term plans. What do you want your sex life to be like when you're FlemGem's age? Or his dad's age? (Yeah, FlemGem's dad and mom are still getting it on, and making sure their kids know. Sheesh.)

Humans need to stop reproducing. There are 7 billion people. Just stop.

ok

Wrong, Putin. Humans need to start eating each other and being hunted by other species and stop dominating the world. That's what nature intended. I can't think of any other species that doesn't have some kind of predator. Even at our carrying capacity, which I'm sure we've passed, we can still sustain ourselves. Nonetheless, we see much of the world struggling to do just that.

So, essentially, we should introduce dinosaurs again. Then we'll be under control.

OMG Putin, your idiocy never ceases to amaze! If you're so concerned about it, why don't you offer yourself and your family up as eugenicist sacrifice to save us all from ourselves.

The Earth is FAR from overpopulated -- any problems attributed to "too many people" are distribution of resource issues, coupled with inefficiencies in existing technologies -- the solutions to which are intentionally kept from the public by powerful monopolies.

I would encourage Putin to never, ever reproduce. I think he should definitely take his own advice...save us from "Idiocradcy"...

Youre batty if you think icreasing corn yields is going to be able to help as we reach 10 billion in forty years. As it is countries cannot afford animal feed and are imposing price controls. Exporters have restricted food exports. The Arab Spring was largely caused by a food crisis. Not to mention the environmental impact of breeding more consumers.

so the solution to the overpopulation is to end the human race alltogether that's effective..

^ i am just sitting this account, Fortress Door is posting this

Putin has swallowed the eugenics bullshit hook line and sinker. He's pathetic. Read what the fuck I said, it's a DISTRIBUTION issue, not production. The powers that control the distribution will let food rot before the ship it to where its needed because they cannot pay. Environmental impact are covered in the "inefficiencies" I spoke of. Keep swallowing their bullshit Putin, seems like you're really good at it.

Eugenics has nothing to do with it. We add the equivalent of another germany tothe world every year. No wishful thinking sbout technology will reduce that level of consumption. We dont have unlimited resources, contrary to popular belief.

Also grain production per capita has declined steadily, this will only get worse.

I love this thread, in two pages Mujus has quoted a lengthy bit of scripture and Putin has invoked ire by taking an extreme viewpoint.

Sex and Diplomacy don't mix.

I agree that Octavious says you are thinking about it too much but there's little that can be done about that until you are fully comfortable with the subject. From my experience it's likely that there will be a girl who feels the same way and finding one can be most of the fun. College is a great opportunity for freedom and experimentation in every area of your life so don't worry about it, just ensure you are true to yourself and let things happen to you.