As I have said previously, I am for freedom of speech. There are a lot of posts that people cringe and grimace and I just kinda shrug, but that does not mean that anyone is allowed to post anything on this site. If you can find a site that lets you do that, please feel free to use their forum to post anything and everything that you wish. This site, at its very core, is a site for Diplomacy games. The forum is a plus and for many, it is a source of knowledge and experience about Diplomacy. When it becomes a reason why people leave, it's problematic, and people don't leave because they merely disagree with each other's ideas but because of the vitriol on the forum.
We have had a number of users who had quit our site because of the forum. We have had multiple users email us asking for forum moderation because though they love our site, it's extremely hard for them to see all the hate posted. We have had mods who quit because of the forum. We currently have mods who put in their time to do game modding but have more than once wanted to quit because of the forum.
Do we expect to see people step in when someone is being abused verbally or physically in public, or do we say ignore it and block it out? Not all things in the physical world translates to the online medium, but I hope our sense of decency would. We do have the mute button and I as well as Kestas and the mods have encouraged people to use it, but it is not a fix all button and it is not a substitute for building a community. When Kestas made me a co-owner of the site, one of the things that I agreed to do was to take charge of the forum and try to grow the user base, which is what I am going to try to do.
It is a fine balance between establishing a community and having freedom of speech. It is not worth it to be able to say whatever you want at the expense of no community, and it is not worth it to have a "community" that does not have much to say to each other. Neither extremes are wanted or desirable. So, my goal is for us to build a community where people are free to discuss and disagree with each other and where we are free to express ourselves which includes the use of colorful language, but not a community where people can continually abuse community members, which also includes the moderators, and spew whatever vitriol that comes to their mind. If you do not feel that such a community is worth having or that a forum without complete 100% freedom of speech is worthy of your time, you are free to not be part of it.
I completely agree with Eden's sentiment: "I think we as a community need to do a better job of treating everyone with respect, regardless of how vile their politics might seem to you. We're adults, we can do better than this and we should."