zultar,
I appreciate your taking the time to respond. I do believe that you're busy, and that all such discussions appear to you as nothing more than an annoyance. I'm glad that you did respond, though, because it enables me to easily see, I think, a couple of the sources of disagreement.
You are under the impression that, during our lengthy discussions in the summer, fall, and winter, you "quoted rules over and over." We're simply not on the same page here. There have been times when I asked under which rule something was done, and got an answer. Typically I said thank you and moved on. None of them seems relevant to the current case, so I'm not sure what enlightenment I was supposed to take with me to today. And then there were times when I asked what rule had been violated, and got, instead, lengthy responses of exactly this type, refusing to say. A further time, it turned out that the wrong reason had been given, and you even sent a very nice apology, and as far as I was aware, we were all friends afterward (your recent rhetoric makes me doubt whether this was real).
And I just don't get it. Nobody made you develop rules. But you chose to do so. Why?
One great thing about rules is, once you have them, it's SUPER EASY to point to the rule that was broken and then have that be the end. Instead, sometimes (not always) when I ask the (extremely simple) question about which rule was broken, you have given a very long post such as the above, and not answered the question. I can certainly see how you feel frustrated with the amount of time you're spending on that. What's sad is that I feel frustrated with the amount of time you're spending on it, too. I didn't ask for a lengthy restatement of philosophy that you have already stated clearly and well elsewhere. (It's your site, you want an emphasis on a quality gaming experience not a few cranky loudmouths, and the rules were designed to promote that. Check).
But even to the degree that you have answered past questions about which rules were being violated, how could that answer my current question about which rule was violated this time? I'm asking a specific question about a specific infraction. I don't see much of an analogy with any of the ones you've answered before.
Lest you call me lazy, let me link some actual past threads in which this question has come up. I'm not posting them because I want to bring up the issues raised again. Actually, I very much don't. I'm just posting because I think that otherwise, you'll say that I'm just too lazy to Google where you've answered this question in the past.
http://webdiplomacy.net/forum.php?
threadID=1198597&page-thread=1#threadPager (here, my question pretty much went unanswered, like today).
Here is one where the question was answered. (You'll notice that I then let the issue die, immediately).
http://www.webdiplomacy.net/forum.php?
threadID=1163491Here is another where a clarification was made.
http://www.webdiplomacy.net/forum.php?
threadID=1249800Notice that again, I dropped the issue promptly once an explanation was given. As you said yourself here, mod misstatement was part of the confusion on this issue.
I confess I don't much take the point of your "two hypotheticals." We're in a very concrete situation here. I asked a question whose answer could be no more than two words -- no intellectual philosophizing required (see, anybody can use that adjective as a slur if they want to). Or indeed, as you correctly say, if the answer is, "We do whatever we want, rules be damned," you could say that too. It is, as you point out (very often) your site. I'm just not sure what I'm supposed to make of this abstract argument for the non-arbitrariness of your moderation. I didn't say it was arbitrary. I just asked a concrete question.
And overall, l really, really don't get the hostility here.Last time we talked about this issue, we had (via PM) friendly and cordial words, and seemed to have reached accord. Why I'm getting so much bile for a very simple and polite question, I cannot fathom.
So that's that. I'd like to make a couple of personal points, though. As both of us have pointed out, you and I have disagreed a fair bit about some of these issues over time (although I wasn't doing so today), and it's probably fair to say we have a philosophical difference on the issue. That said, however strongly I have expressed disagreement with your positions, I have not gotten personal. I know you very little, and I have no reason to doubt that the opinions you hold, you hold because you honestly believe they are best for the site you have worked very hard for.
The thing is, the reverse is true as well. In truth, you have no reason to believe that I am being either dishonest or lazy. You have made it clear recently that you have something of a problem with "intellectuals," (and you used the word liberally as an adjective in your recent post), but whatever that problem and whatever its source, there is no excuse for turning disagreements into groundless accusations because you perceive the person you're addressing to be in a group you dislike. And that's not an "intellectual" value, but just a tenet of common decency and politeness.