@spyman: "Girls become interested quickly but they also lose interest quickly." I hope that's not what happened with this girl. Most of the signs she gave of liking me happened over two months ago. The only one that happened recently was that she actually texted me (rememeber, I gave her my number a couple of weeks ago).

"The mantra is less fantasy more action."
Of course, the problem is, I'm having these fantasies because I can't get any action. It's like a vicious cycle.

THat's reassuring.

@CM - all I have to say is I went through the same thing. The feeling wears off though, after a while, believe me. In a couple of days you'll be viewing her in the same light again. Just make sure you like her for who she is and not who you want her to be. Also, a cautious warning - some girls are in it for the chase, and when they get you, they lose interest quickly. And the first relationship almost never lasts as long as you think it will (and no, I'm not saying you'll be dumped. I did the breaking up with my first girlfriend, so that's the angle I'm coming from).

Other than that, I'm looking forward to the thread you'll put up once you two actually hook up lol

goldfinger +1

For some reason I had a feeling that this sort of thing has happened to other guys.

@CM

I feel we've given you advice on this subject ad nauseam.

It's very, very simple.

Go up to her and say, "would you like to go to the movies?"

If she says yes, have a good time.

If she says no, move on.

Of course, I still stand by my previous statement that she's too young, but that's your (and her parent's) call to make.

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@abge: Well that was excruciatingly hard to do when I thought I loved her. Hopefully that will be easier to do now that I know I don't really love her. Side note: Didn't you say that I should wait a bit before asking her out?

No, I said you should wait before asking her to be your girlfriend...

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The worst she can say is no..

Unless your like some pathetic Diplomacy Nerd who stalks other girls at your school on Facebook and unloads heaps of rage on their faces cause they dont talk to you..

Then you might get a different response ...like

"Get a way from me you freak.."

Or..

"Why are you naked?"

Then you will feel like there is a worse response than no.

I don't know why you want to play house at age 14. Life is too short to be consumed by the need for a relationship. Enjoy the carefree days of youth. Play sports. Read books. Do not procreate, for the love of god.

I agree with abge. Ask her out to a movie (just not some shit like Transformers that you know she won't like). And do it in the next two weeks.

"Do not procreate, for the love of god."

Putin, that may be the first time you made be laugh haha

I'm going to bed. Thanks for all your help.

Oh, and @putin: "I don't know why you want to play house at age 14". I'm 15. And what exactly do you mean by playing house? I don't want to settle down for life now, but I do want to find love. That is the thing I want most.

agree with abge. Man up or shut up, cuz repeating the same advice is getting boring.

Don't settle down. Don't look for love, I highly doubt you will find it at such a young age. I'd be surprised if this person loved you, at 13 I dare say I didn't love anyone. You are young, wait a bit, don't rush into things. Also, while 15/13 isn't illegal, at such a young age even one year can make a large difference (IMO).

@yellowjacket: Don't just tell me to man up. Maybe you never had trouble talking to girls, but I always have. Don't tell me to just man up until you've experienced what I've experienced. What you need to actually do is tell me HOW to "man up".

If you want a committed relationship in which you're with that person all the time, asking permission to do things you would normally do, confessing your eternal loyalty or some other thing, that's playing house, by which I mean acting like you're a married couple.
Dating is expensive. Save your money. Save your parents' money. Save the world the horror of seeing youth PDAs.

I want a committed relationship, but of those things you listed, that is all I want right now at this moment. I don't want to confess my eternal loyalty now, or spend all of my time with someone now. In the future (5-15 years) I want those things, hopefully with this girl but most likely not. But I don't want those other things now at this moment.

"she could be someone that you aren't wanting to beat off to, but actually fall in love with. Because they are 2 completely different things"

They certainly aren't mutually exclusive though.

What made you so prudish Putin? You're not one I would take for that sort of thing.

CM one thing you seem to be worried about is that the way you are acting or feeling is not normal. Some of the older people here may have forgotten, but I think I can say with relative certainty that a lot of guys your age think and act like you do. I'm not too cowardly to say that I for my own part see a lot of myself in what you post about how you feel.

As to whether you should post this kind of thing here, I don't really care if you do. It's your prerogative.

Actual advice follows the lines of abgemacht. You seem to understand that you should not dwell on a person so much ESPECIALLY if you do not actually know them as yet. Let your adoration stem from experiences you have in real life, not from constructions of your mind. That said, I remember how you feel. What guy didn't have some crush he adored and fantasized about from a distance?

But what would I do differently if I could go back? I would take my knowledge with me that she is just a girl and just ask her on a date. If it failed I'd be better off, if it worked I'd be better off. It's logically easy to understand, it's practically very difficult to do if you never have before. It's even hard for the next few years but it gets easier all the time.

Rest easy knowing that you are in a kind of playground or training zone where what you do won't affect the rest of your life that much. So if you crash and burn a couple times, better there than in your real life that you will have 10 years from now.

Just go for it and always be mindful of avoiding being a creep. Saying anything about what you have said to us to this girl would be very very creepy, just so you know. Mentioning anything about your feelings for her except maybe "I like you" after a successful date is also too much. And do not for all that is good mention that you asked about her on this website. In fact don't mention the internet or what you do on it at all with girls unless you are securely inside a relationship.

did you see my post to you in your last thread, it was the last post

definitely listen to thucy. that was a sensible post, especially the part of not mentioning anything that goes on in this forum. She'll run a mile, and if she doesn't you ought to for she's obviously well fucked up.

Oh, and definitely do *NOT* tell her how you Shake Hands with the Governor while thinking about her.

Nothing killed friendships for me personally more than having a girlfriend in high school. Nothing good came out of it. If you're just going to the movies and taking it easy that's good, but anything more than that is too serious.

Get thee to a pickup artist forum.

@thucy: Thank you. I still want to know how exactly I should talk to her. I kind of have a plan ready to aks her to hang out, but I'm not sure if it's a good one.

@abge: Well, yeah, that's kinda obvious. But that makes me wonder, do most guys think about the girls they like when they, you know, do that? I would think it would be normal, but I'm not sure.

@awb: NO. I despise pickup artists.

In answer to your question: what should you do next?

The answer is not, under any circumstances, ask a bunch of assholes for advice online.

You realize the Nazis are the source of a lot of modern information about the human body's reaction to extreme cold, right?

Just because the source is vile doesn't mean the information can't be used for good ends.

"Rest easy knowing that you are in a kind of playground or training zone where what you do won't affect the rest of your life that much. So if you crash and burn a couple times, better there than in your real life that you will have 10 years from now."
True. The sad thing is, for most guys middle school was the training ground and now they're perfectly comfortable with girls. I never had any experiences with girls in middle school, so now I'm very nervous and unsure around them.