Actually, no, referring to the phone call to his gay lover int eh middle of the night is only insulting if you, the reader, apply an insult to it. I use it because it is a socially scintillating scenario...one that the voyeurs would be interested in listening to, as opposed to a call to his grandmother. If *YOU* think that was intended as an insult, then it is *YOU* that needs to examine your own attitudes regarding homosexuality.
As in most cases, the insult, the harm, is in the ears of the hearer, not the sayer.
Call me anything you wish...they are words. More importantly, they are words from an anonymous source on some fringe web site on the internet. You really think your words can insult me, unless they have real meaning to me?
For example...a year ago, when I was struggling in the depths of severe alcoholism, and my behavior (believe it or not) was far worse than it is now, there were times when the words of some stung me. The evil Draugnar reached out to me privately and encouraged me, and in part because of this community (as well as my family, of course) I got myself under control and am clean today....but the words only hurt because they were true. Today, Santa, Putin and a few others like to try to insult me and call me a drunk...the words are impotent and harmless today, because I am not a drunk today, and further I know they know this...so the words have no power over me, because I don't allow them.
So...if the image of someone calling his gay lover bothers you, it is you that is the problem, not me, not the image. But, in our *society*, which *pretends* that everybody is open to homosexuality and accepting, such imagery is still truly not accepted,is still something that many bristle at, see as abnormal, etc. It is something to which the voyeurs would listen with great interest...and it is something that clearly caught your eye as something of interest and different. So the problem is you, *if* it bothered you.