I want to make one thing clear: this isn't at all about me getting her. It isn't consciously, anyway. What I try to achieve is help her make the right decision, and I wonder wether my bias means I can't give the right advice. From what she told me, I believe she sort of already made the decision that she doesn't want to get more serious but she wants to wait a month or two before saying anything. I'm thinking sooner is better for both of them though. It's a classic case of a 'relation' screwing up a friendship. She wants to be friends with him, but she misses the time when it didn't 'get serious'. She doesn't want to risk losing the friendship. I tried to explain to her that the friendship is sort of already gone since they got serious although I don't know why, and that if she breaks up, it might come back eventually.
She's a smart girl and probably guessed it, but I don't think I should state my interest as long as they're still together.
As for she and me, not important. I would also want to get to know her better before I could consider wether I love her or just like her.
I think she feels similar about that.
For the record though, I definitely think that the perfect boyfriend for her would need to be her friend first and foremost. She didn't literally say that but that's one of the things I really learned from the conversation. The friendship should ideally be strong enough to survive a possible ruined 'relation', so there's less fear and more careless joy. Right now, the 2 of them just seem to have too much tensions because they might like eachother but they're not really friends...
So now I don't know wether I should help her further or apologise for the possibly biased advice, basically telling her to pretty much ignore my advice after all.
When she said she thinks she doesn't really want a relation with him, I adviced her to end it sooner rather than later if she knows for certain, but made clear that she really needs to decide for herself wether she actually knows that for certain. I already pointed out to her that I don't like him.