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tvrocks (388 D)
23 Jun 14 UTC
need replacement
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bicycleforlife (112 D)
22 Jun 14 UTC
A Fool's Quest
Please consider joining this game if you have NOT been recently diagnosed with lock jaw. If however you LOVE Diplomacy...have a seat at the table. I will join you as soon as I am done in the kitchen sharpening the knives...
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mapleleaf (0 DX)
21 Jun 14 UTC
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So, I was approaching this line-up at a convenience store or at least I thought I was...
...I guess the problem was I didn't know if I was going to the front or the back of the line because the clerk/owner was turned around on a stool...
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bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
22 Jun 14 UTC
North Korea (again)
http://uproxx.com/webculture/2014/06/north-korea-is-furious-at-seth-rogen-and-james-franco-for-plotting-to-kill-kim-jong-un/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+uproxx%2Ffeatures+%28Uproxx%29
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steephie22 (182 D(S))
19 Jun 14 UTC
So a girl isn't sure about 'breaking up' with a guy and I help her figure it out..
I think I've done it pretty much by the book, but I can't ignore the fact that there's quite a bias: I really like her, and I don't like him. So breaking up happens to be in my favour.
What I wonder is: does this make it wrong? At least consciously, the only thing I care about is helping her do the right thing, and there's definitely something 'cold' between them that wouldn't be there if they love eachother.. I'm pretty sure it would end at some point anyway..
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Partysane (10754 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Honestly? Stay the fuck out of other peoples relationship problems. Those are, by far, the worst thing to be involved in. Whatever you imagine to be the outcome of it all to be, it will be worse. And she won't thank you one bit for it.
If you are sure about what is going to happen, just let it play out and profit when it is over.
Right now you are just setting yourself up for a broken nose and a girl that resents your meddeling.
President Eden (2750 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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If she's coming to you asking for advice about breaking up with her boyfriend, she's not going to get with you later. People talk to their friends about that kinda shit, not potential love interests.
ghug (5068 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Try to hook up with the boyfriend. If he's into it, he's no good for her.
uclabb (589 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
Guide, but don't push
TheMinisterOfWar (509 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Don't even guide. There are only two people in the world that understand any given relationships, and they often have radically different takes on it as it is.
ghug (5068 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
Honestly though, listen to what everyone else is saying. If she really does want to talk about it with you, just ask really open questions and let her talk. She really just wants someone to vent to.
SYnapse (0 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Steephie autisming up webDip, 8 threads out of 10.
President Eden (2750 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Putting my previous advice another way -- if she wanted to dump her bf for you she wouldn't be coming to you for advice on it, for exactly the same reason you're skeptical about giving her advice on it: she'd be biased in favor of doing it and wouldn't get any help from someone who's likely to agree with her on it. She would be going to an impartial voice that could give her advice that's in her best interests.

AKA a friend who she's not going to fuck. Sorry bro. You've already lost this one. If she wanted to fuck you and she also felt comfortable enough with you to talk about really personal stuff like thinking about dumping this guy, you'd probably already be her boyfriend, not the other dude.

If you think you understand their situation well enough to give good advice you should do it, if you don't you should tell her upfront that you don't know well enough to give good advice. At some point (but not right now) you should consider telling her that you like her -- you both owe it to yourselves to have that conversation, but having it right now is gonna make you seem like a scumbag if you genuinely do believe she should break up with him (because let's face it, there's no way "I like you and I think you should dump your bf, but I swear those two are unrelated" is gonna fly).
uclabb (589 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Alternative plan: just whip it out.
ulytau (541 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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ITT: steephie totally not in a friendzone
steephie22 (182 D(S))
19 Jun 14 UTC
I want to make one thing clear: this isn't at all about me getting her. It isn't consciously, anyway. What I try to achieve is help her make the right decision, and I wonder wether my bias means I can't give the right advice. From what she told me, I believe she sort of already made the decision that she doesn't want to get more serious but she wants to wait a month or two before saying anything. I'm thinking sooner is better for both of them though. It's a classic case of a 'relation' screwing up a friendship. She wants to be friends with him, but she misses the time when it didn't 'get serious'. She doesn't want to risk losing the friendship. I tried to explain to her that the friendship is sort of already gone since they got serious although I don't know why, and that if she breaks up, it might come back eventually.

She's a smart girl and probably guessed it, but I don't think I should state my interest as long as they're still together.

As for she and me, not important. I would also want to get to know her better before I could consider wether I love her or just like her.
I think she feels similar about that.

For the record though, I definitely think that the perfect boyfriend for her would need to be her friend first and foremost. She didn't literally say that but that's one of the things I really learned from the conversation. The friendship should ideally be strong enough to survive a possible ruined 'relation', so there's less fear and more careless joy. Right now, the 2 of them just seem to have too much tensions because they might like eachother but they're not really friends...

So now I don't know wether I should help her further or apologise for the possibly biased advice, basically telling her to pretty much ignore my advice after all.

When she said she thinks she doesn't really want a relation with him, I adviced her to end it sooner rather than later if she knows for certain, but made clear that she really needs to decide for herself wether she actually knows that for certain. I already pointed out to her that I don't like him.
ghug (5068 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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http://i.imgur.com/RZM33.gif
Mujus (1495 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Stay out. If you care about her, pray for them both. That's it.
2ndWhiteLine (2736 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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You're getting to be worse than Conservative Man.
bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
Steephie, you don't want to be the douchebag that breaks two people up. It may be coming for them, but don't be that person. Stay out of it.
Draugnar (0 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Steephie - Take that $50US I sent you and go have a blast for a while but listen to the folks above and stay the fuck out of their relationship..
krellin (80 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Propose a three-way and just out-perform the shit out of him and she'll dump him when it's over. Either that, or during foreplay orally castrate him, and, with the other boy now junkless, she'll turn to you for all her needs.
bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Why'd you send him $50..?
krellin (80 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Where's my $50?
bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Ditto... ^
President Eden (2750 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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actually krellin's got the right idea, do that
Draugnar (0 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Who says I actually sent him $50? And bo got his money. It's that gold coin behind his name. You didn't think he had actually contributed money to the site did you?
President Eden (2750 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Draugnar confirmed webdip sugardaddy.

New flavor idea for M4.
Draugnar (0 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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As far as coinage goes, I've been a sugar daddy for more than one other coin on this thread.
krellin (80 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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And pearl necklaces...
bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
I actually did contribute money to this site Draug, you just can't tell because KESTAS WON'T REMOVE THE DAMN GOLD THING..............
abgemacht (1076 D(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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You best had transferred that money through a mod approved Chase bank account.
bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Shit man, I guess you have to ban me.
dD_ShockTrooper (1199 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
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If she wants to go back to the way it was when they were friends it means she doesn't want to have a relationship with him. Currently, she is worried that if she tries to make it go back to the way it was, he will get offended and not be her friend out of spite. What she doesn't realise, is that any guy who does this is a total scumbag and should be strung up by the neck for being a total cunt. If he was actually a friend to her in any sense of the word he would never abandon her just because she broke up with him. Basically, either he doesn't give a shit about her and he only maintains the relationship to satisfy whatever desires he might have, or there will be no problem with going back to being friends.

Personally, I would say exactly what I have said here. As to what you should do, work it out yourself.
steephie22 (182 D(S))
19 Jun 14 UTC
I swear I just posted a really long reply... Dammit...

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obiwanobiwan (248 D)
13 Jun 14 UTC
The Favorite Author Tournament: The Elite 8
Into Round 4, the Elite 8, and the contestants? George Orwell, who IS More Equal than Others! Charles Dickens, who has Great Expectations after taking out Homer! Virginia Woolf, in a League and Room of Her Own as the last female author standing! Victor Hugo, Master of Notre Dame! Poe, who's looking to be eliminated nevermore! Dumas, out-dueling all comers! Isaac Asimov, laying the Foundation for victory! And Tolkien, beating Vergil to become the One Fantasy Writer to Rule them All!
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CommanderByron (801 D(S))
21 Jun 14 UTC
gameID=143689
Classic, Anon, Live
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CommanderByron (801 D(S))
21 Jun 14 UTC
gameID=143686 , 30 minute phases
gameID=143686 , 30minute phases, classic diplomacy.
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bo_sox48 (5202 DMod(G))
21 Jun 14 UTC
Reliability Threshold
Is anyone thinking about creating an option for a minimum threshold to join a new game based on reliability rating?
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Fluminator (1500 D)
20 Jun 14 UTC
Classic Chaos
This site needs the "Classic Chaos" variant from Vdiplomacy. I would play it at Vdip but it's next to impossible to start a chaos game there.
Good idea no?
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Chaqa (3971 D(B))
20 Jun 14 UTC
SRG idea: no builds
So I want to get people to try out a novel idea I had: a game where you can never build, except to get back to your starting # of units.

Who's in?
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Mapu (362 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
Bump
Bumping this thread.
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Frank (100 D)
18 Jun 14 UTC
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Grantland article on Diplomacy
Definitely worth a read
http://grantland.com/features/diplomacy-the-board-game-of-the-alpha-nerds/
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2ndWhiteLine (2736 D(B))
20 Jun 14 UTC
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I need your help.
See inside.
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NigeeBaby (100 D(G))
19 Jun 14 UTC
How can we shine a light into the 'dark net'
http://www.bbc.com/news/technology-27885502

Let's catch those paedos and kick their ass, we can put a man on the moon but cannot find a few dirty child molesters ...... priorities have gotta change
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Jamiet99uk (1307 D)
20 Jun 14 UTC
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Sorry
Hey everyone. Last weekend I was unexpectedly rushed back into hopsital due to complications after my surgery. I've just got home today.
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denis (864 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
A Live Game with Enough Time for Serious Diplomacy
Is anyone interested? details inside (no I am not advertising a live game, but thinking of setting a particular one up)
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Yonni (136 D(S))
20 Jun 14 UTC
Very minor bug
Very minor issue that probably doesn't affect many people. If you sign in to a banned account (I created an account in error near the beginning, forgetting that I already had one), there's no 'log out' button. I needed to clear the cookies in order to sign in with my real one. Not a big issue but figured it was worth mentioning.
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ol_hickory (515 D)
20 Jun 14 UTC
Five Minute Public Press Game
ID: 143645
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denis (864 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
Replacement for Gunboat
gameID=143081Turkey was banned can we find a replacement
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Tru Ninja (1016 D(S))
19 Jun 14 UTC
Looking for a replacement player in the SoW game.
PM me if you're interested. Please do not post interest here since it's an anonymous game. Any player that is interested will do, but I place preference on those that have completed games and have not had a track record of CDs.
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denis (864 D)
20 Jun 14 UTC
Replacement for Turkey
http://webdiplomacy.net/board.php?gameID=143624 live gunboat
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denis (864 D)
20 Jun 14 UTC
Replacement for Germany
http://webdiplomacy.net/board.php?gameID=143619 Live game
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bengo1023 (100 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
advertise live games!
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The Fox (115 D)
19 Jun 14 UTC
36hr anon WTA
gameID=143580

It'll be an awesome BlocParty
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Thucydides (864 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
Seeking a student for the SoW
Hi forum! I'm looking for someone interested in taking over Russia in the School of War. It's 1902 and you're in a great spot. This is an anonymous game, so PM me if you're interested. I will take anyone, however preference is given to those who have completed games and have a low number of CDs.
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dirge (768 D(B))
18 Jun 14 UTC
replacement player needed please
http://webdiplomacy.net/board.php?gameID=142415
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Yellowjacket (835 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Mafia III.VII: Irritating Draugnar
More to follow.
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SYnapse (0 DX)
19 Jun 14 UTC
Splitdiplomat
Hey what happened to split diplomat?
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Yellowjacket (835 D(B))
19 Jun 14 UTC
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Time to let the old girl go
YJ is finally selling his car. Here is my craigslist ad, hope you guys approve.
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